I don’t believe that if you do good, good things will happen. Everything is completely accidental and random. Sometimes bad things happen to very good people and sometimes good things happen to bad people. But at least if you try to do good things, then you’re spending your time doing something worthwhile.
— Helen Mirren
Relationship reminder —
So, you’ve cleaned your gutters, washed your windows, dusted and vacuumed — all sorts of maintenance on your home. Your relationships need maintenance too. Stop and think about who or what needs some attention to stay healthy and strong.
if you’d like to read more about relationships, my book, How to Get and Give Love – Relationship Maps, is available online at all major booksellers, including Amazon.com
Mindfulness reminder —
If things in your world aren’t as they should be —
Step #1: change what you can
Step #2: practice acceptance about what you can’t.
It’s about practicing being present with something you don’t want or like and not struggling against it.
It’s not always easy but it keeps your head from exploding.
for more on Mindfulness, click here to visit Thich Nhat Hanh’s site on Mindfulness in Daily Life
Recent Relationship Maps column:
Love and Anxiety
Melissa was excited and terrified. Her friends had talked her into celebrating her 30th birthday by going skydiving. Breakfast had been an absolute no-go. Her anxiety went up even further when she had to sign all the liability waivers at the front desk of Jumpin’ Beans. Her anxiety went down a lot when her tandem diver was explaining how he was going to keep her safe. It didn’t hurt that he had the bluest eyes she’d ever seen or that he was strong, clearly experienced, and knowledgable.
Melissa survived the jump and gave Eric, her tandem partner, a very enthusiastic “thank you” hug and kiss. Her enthusiasm extended to giving him her phone number when he asked for it.
Fast forward a year.
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